Tuesday, April 30, 2013

My 3 Year Old

WHAT THE 3 YEAR OLD??  I seriously can't believe my lil man is 3 already.  Actually, he's 3 years and nearly 3 months old at this point, but that's only because I'm super slackoid mama lately and haven't blogged.  

 So, here's the latest on my little/big boy:
- He is extremely affectionate and LOVES hugs, kisses and backrubs.  All are a delightful pass time for me, his adoring mama.

- He loves babies and asks to give them kisses whenever he sees them.  There's a few new babies at church and Nolan makes all the mom's hearts melt because he's so loving toward them.  He was 1 month shy of being old enough to go to sunbeams this january (grrr), but he's the "big helper" in there, so I guess it's ok.  He gets the binkie's and blankets for the 18 month olds and tries to comfort them if they cry.  So sweet.

- High energy doesn't even begin to describe what this kid is.  He's SUPER-jump-up-and-down-martha-energy-man.  Seriously, sometimes I feel like I can't keep up. 

- He is very smart, and very articulate.  It's so interesting to see the differences between my two kiddos.  CJ is smart in such different areas and different ways than her younger bro.  He LOVES all things shapes and colors, but isn't as interested in letters and numbers as his older sis was at his age.  He can identify his name and all the letters in it, so that's a start, right? 

- He tries SO hard to be included with his big sis and her friends.  He tags along with the older kids and is happy as a clam even if they aren't doing much to include him. 

-He will be THE BEST big brother.  Kisses and zerbers on my tummy are a favorite of his, and he also loves giving my belly "yiddle squeezes!"  He has also started hoarding toys in the corner of his room for "baby bludder."

-His speech is great, but for some reason he switches the R sound for the L sound when it's the second sound in a word.  He says "Blowken" for Broken, and "Flidge" for Fridge.  What is funny to me is that he can say "Rocket" just fine, but if the r sound is second he mixes it up with L. 

- He LOVES to tease and joke with us, and his humor is predictable and 3 year old and darling.

-He's still measuring off the charts for height and around 60th % for weight.  Long and lean is how we grow 'em round here. 

-He gets in to the pantry and fridge constantly and tries to sneak food ALL. THE. TIME. 

- Favorite foods: pepperoni pizza, apples, oranges, and any candy he can get his paws on.

-Other favorite things:  Jammies.  His doggy pillow pet.  Time with daddy.  Morning backrubs from mom.

Here's his birthday party pics:
We did a family party this year.  I am a mom who likes to celebrate, but I'm not a crazy go-all-out-with-a-theme-and-invite-the-circus-as-well-as-everyone-you've-ever-met type of mom. Maybe I could be if we were closer to family, but this year it was just our little clan.   And we are great. 
Helping with dinner!  And singing. 

Under the birthday banner!  Happy #3!

Ripping presents open with his teeth.  He's very efficient :)

Avenger shoes!

It was so fun for me to see his excitement about
 a plastic pair of binoculars.  I love being his mom.

New "laptop" for Nolan. 

The cake!  Notice how he still has the binoculars around
his neck and he wouldn't let us put the laptop away.  Silly kid.
 


Funfetti cake! Delish. 
This 3 year old sure is a blessing.  He makes me happy when skies are grey.  And, while there are days when I swear he could drive a woman to drink, most of the time he is simply a joy and a bright spot in our lives. 

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

The Saga of the Renters: A Cautionary Tale

Disclaimer:  This is a super long post.  And a little boring if you didn't live through it.  Just so you know.


I felt SO good about renting our house to them.

Let me just say that upfront.

 I really felt like we had been blessed.  They were so excited about our home.  They really were. 

BUT FIRST, a little back story:  We purchased our first home in Billings a few years ago with high hopes of living there for years and loving it.  We did love our home.... but Michael's job was THE WORST and he traveled constantly and I was all aboard the crazy-mommy-without-a-break train.  In late August he was let go from his job and (miracle!) the next day he was offered another job 120 miles away.  Rather than commute 4 hours every day, we chose to be together and live in nowhereland.  We rented our house in Billings to a couple from our Billings church congregation and for a while and they worked out great.  But, they ended up having to move and so we prepared to rent out the house in July of 2012. 

Back to the story:

I put an ad on craigslist and (no joke) within 24 hours I had about 8 people lined up to come look at the house.  Providence! Hallelujah!  Hooray!

The people we ended up renting to were the first call, and the first showing.  I loved them.  It was an older couple as well as a younger couple with 2 kids and they all wanted to share the house and live in happiness forever while paying our mortgage.  It was an aunt and a niece and their husbands.  I was ok with the fact that there were 4 people because, in all honesty, I thought it would be good rent payment security.  Surely 4 competent adults could come up with rent each month, right?  Providence!  Hallelujah!  Hooray.

We went in to the house and re-finished the hardwood (which took FOREVER) and I tried to touch up the paint in the living room. UUUUUnfortunately, the paint was SUPER old and my "touch up" job ended up making it look seriously awful. Before moving in, we told them that we would allow them to paint the living room (with our approval of the color) if they wanted, or we would have a company come in and paint for them.  More on that later.


 Everything went swimmingly on move-in/lease signing day.  Again, we just felt great about them.  I was the only one to go in to Billings that day because Mike was working.  After all the papers had been signed the older couple asked me to come downstairs with them. The oldies were going to live downstairs and the younguns were to occupy the upstairs.  So, the oldies take me down and start telling me all the plans they have for the basement.  They wanted to put a closet in our basement bonus room. 

 Uhhhhh.... ok? 
That sounds good, I guess... 

Then they pull me in to the weird storage area in our basement (really- it was the cuckoo part of the house) and they explained how they want to build a kitchen down there. The oldies wanted a separate kitchen from the younguns.
What?  A kitchen?  For realz? 

I was kind of taken back.  I told them that I would have to talk with the hubbs, but that we might be able to work something out.  The older gentlemen was a contractor, so that gave us a little faith.

That day in the basement I said to them, "Well, we are willing to talk about this with you, but we cannot give you any money to do this.  If you want to do this, you'll have to pay for it.  And I know my husband and I will want to see your plans first and make the decisions with you."

"OH, of COURSE!"  they said.  "ABSOLUTELY" they said.  "Don't even WORRY!" they said.

Mike spoke with them and we decided that we wanted them to feel comfortable in the house and make it their own, so we gave them the go-ahead with the understanding that we would be consulted about all decisions, and we insisted that all work be signed off as up to code by a licensed electrician. 

"OH, of COURSE!" they said. "ABSOLUTELY" they said. "Don't even WORRY!" they said.


A few weeks down the road, the Younguns called to say they had painted the living room.

They had not so much as mentioned to us that they had chosen a color, let alone had us approve it.
We had not insisted on written consent.  Our mistake, for sure.

"What color did you paint it?" I asked, thinking they had probably just re-painted the pretty slate blue which was already there.

"A really lovely Amber color.  It's a wonderful neutral tone." she said.
I was surprised, but I thought that I'd be ok with it if it was neutral. 

On my next trip to Billings I stopped by to see it.
Oh, boy.
It was a sickly combination of brown and mustard yellow.  Not exactly amber.
It looked like someone had let a newborn poop all over my walls.
Not only that, but they had painted my hallway the same color.
Without so much as a phone call to tell me, let alone ask.

As I went to look at the hallway, I peeked in to the bedroom.  Strewn across the (recently painted) bedroom wall were two large squares of forest green test paint. 
Going through my head was the phrase 'Give 'em an inch and they'll take a mile.'

At the time I was talking myself down and thinking "Well, they have told us that they want to be here for quite a while, so this is fine. This is what they want, and we want them to be comfortable."



At that visit, I was also able to talk to the oldies about the basement.  They said things were going great, a few walls had been knocked out and they found a really good deal on cabinets. 

Then they mentioned to us that we could take a portion off rent every month until the cabinets were paid for.
BY US.

Bewildered about what to do, we decided to try our best to take the high road.  We emailed and told them that when they moved out, we would go through the house and (with the exception of the living room- which we had given permission to paint) let them know at that time what we wanted re-painted.  The oldies were also informed that we would not take money off rent, but we appreciated all they were doing. 

The oldies called and let us know that when they moved out in a few years we could pay for the cabinets or they would just take them, but we would revisit the issue at that time.

Fine.  Whatever.  You're getting annoying.

In early December we got a call.  -The Call- if you will.  It was the young husband.  He called my phone, but asked for my husband.  Mike was gone at the time, so I said that he could just tell me whatever he needed to.  He told me that they were going to be a little late with rent that month.  They hadn't missed or been late with payments previous to that, and everybody has bad months, so I said that was fine.

He then proceeded to tell me that they found a house to buy (we found out later that in reality they were doing a "rent to own" situation) and he was giving their 30 days notice.  

Except that they were only 5 months in to a YEAR LONG lease agreement. 
I told him I needed to talk to Mike.
Young husband yelled in to the phone, "That's why I wanted to talk to him in the first place!"
As if I couldn't make decisions without Mike, but he could make them without me.....? 

Frankly, from there everything went to crap.  He called me 3 days before I was supposed to leave on a GIGANTUOUS trip to California for the holidays.  Not only that, but I was offended by the chauvinistic jerk.  I am not a bra-burner or anything, but when you can't even bring yourself to deal with a woman on a business level, I take issue with it.  He kept calling Mike's phone and wanting to talk to Mike. I deal with 90% of the Billings house stuff because my hubbs works his butt off at a full time job.  GET OVER IT, dude!  I feel sorry for your wife, and you are a pig.

We decided to let them out of their lease. Once again, we were trying to be nice. We let them know that until we found new renters they were responsible for payment of rent.

A few nights later, we got a call from the old husband.  OR, rather, MIKE got a call. He put it on speaker.  Love my hubbs.

The old husband asked us if we could pay them the 600 dollars they had put in to the basement.  Frankly, the fact that he had the audacity to even ASK irked me.  We told them we were really sorry, but we weren't able to pay them that.  His response was "Well, just make sure you pay it forward." 
He was being nice about it (or so we thought).

We went to Cali, and Christmas was fun and we thought all was going to be fine.  It was a hassle to try and get new renters over the holiday, but we had agreed to let them out of their lease, so we did what we could.

A few days after Christmas I called them to talk to them about a move out date and the paint and a few things.  The young wife answered.  She informed me that the entire kitchen had been ripped out of the basement. 
I was in complete shock.

So now, instead of us having to put a little money in for flooring, we would have to deal with hoses sticking out of the wall, weird light fixtures and outlets everywhere, AND putting flooring down on twice the space.
Before they moved in it had been portioned off as a storage space.  It was clearly delineated.  Granted, it was kooky, but it had had a specific purpose.  Now, since the walls had been knocked down and there was no kitchen there, it looked like we forgot to put carpet down on half the room or finish it in any way.

We talked to the old husband a few days later (who had done all the "work").  He said that since we "weren't willing to pay him for the work he had done, he had to sell the cabinets to get some money back."

Now people- I GET that he had put his own money in to my house.  But we hadn't asked him to do that.  That was HIS choice for HIS family to make HIS life better- not mine! 
Not to mention the fact that THEY WERE THE ONE'S BREAKING THEIR CONTRACT EARLY!  IT'S NOT LIKE WE WERE KICKING THEM OUT FOR NO REASON.

He was also really mad that we wouldn't pay him for the hourly work. 
I'm not even kidding.
The audacity of it still blows me away.

I wanted to scream at him that if a management company had been dealing with them they sure as HELL wouldn't be getting out of their lease, let alone getting their deposit back, let alone getting out of it without EXTRA charges. 

On move out day the old husband actually started lecturing us about being grateful for God's blessings.  As if he had been a blessing to us?

There have been blessings, but they did not stem from our dealings with those people. 
The only blessing that came as a DIRECT result of them was the fact that they moved out and we now have awesome people living there. We ended up losing a lot of money in the situation- which I hate to admit.  I'm not going in to the details of the financials, but they were angry that we took their deposit, even though they didn't pay rent in January.  We even pro-rated it for them.  I guess when you can't figure your life out financially and you break contracts all willy-nilly it makes sense that you would feel entitled. 
Grrr. Makes my blood boil, even 4 months later.



It was one of the most awkward/stressful situations I've ever dealt with. 

SOOOOOOOO...................
Here's my advice to anyone who wants/ needs to rent out their home:

Hire a management company.

If you can't: Put every last detail in writing and make sure your renters realize up front that you are not nice.  Don't ever be nice or you might just get screwed.

And, while we've been "once beaten, twice shy", we are still nice people.  Can't let the poopooheads get you down, eh??


Post Edit:  My sister just messaged me with a link to this blog post. 
I will now thank my lucky stars that our experience (while stressful) was nowhere NEAR as bad as these poor people.  As far as I know, our renters didn't get new titties with thier rent money.